I will be 40 in under a year. I would be lying in the event that I said that turning the huge 40 didn't trouble me. It appears that 40 is a number where I trust I ought to have at last "touched base" in life, or my life ought to be the ideal photo of a fruitful spouse, mother, agent or whatever other requesting desire I put upon myself when I was more youthful. My life at this moment is entirely great, however in the event that I could have arranged everything out or done things differently – it certainly would not look like how it really turned out. I am a honored mother of two youngsters and I do have a couple of achievements added to my repertoire however I sometimes compare my life to others and it just gets me down.
#1 Love & accept yourself fully
I genuinely accept on the off chance that I had acknowledged the great and awful parts of myself at a more youthful age, I would have maintained a strategic distance from a hefty portion of the wrong decisions that I made in my life. When you know who you truly are inside, you start to acknowledge and cherish yourself completely. When you really adore yourself from within, you can love and acknowledge others which gives a substantially higher probability of keeping up solid connections.
#2 feel your inner soul
Whatever your energy, or whatever you appreciate in life, ensure you nourish your spirit with what moves you. In the event that you don't know what your energy is, attempt new things and find diverse exercises until you locate a couple that give you that sentiment warmth, opportunity and acknowledgment inside
#3 Find a strong support connection network
For quite a while, I attempted to do everything in my life in my own particular power and with little assistance from others. I later acknowledged having a solid encouraging group of people of companions and safe individuals to impart my life to is so fulfilling. Finding and developing new associations with others that will love and bolster you regardless of what is so essential to have in life.
#4 Be Original
During some of my harder times in life, I wore a pretty and smiling mask on my face no matter what I was going through. Only a few close people in my life knew what was really going on during my hardest trials. Once you begin to show others you have ups, downs and struggles in life just like everyone else, you become more trustworthy and sincere to others.
#5 Live for yourself
Some of my harder circumstances in life, I wore a beautiful and grinning cover all over regardless of what I was experiencing. Just a couple close individuals throughout my life comprehended what was truly continuing amid my hardest trials. When you start to show others you have ups, downs and battles in life simply like every other person, you turn out to be more reliable and true to others.
#6 Be standing for yourself
I could have kept away from a couple of awful connections in the event that I would have made sense of this when I was more youthful. Trade off is required in any cozy relationship since we are all extraordinary and have diverse needs. Trade off is something worth being thankful for more often than not if the bargaining is equivalent on both sides. When you surrender your needs and needs the lion's share of the time in any one relationship, it's an ideal opportunity to re-assess that relationship and choose in the event that it truly is solid for you to be a piece of it.
#7 travel more
I could have stayed away from a couple of terrible connections on the off chance that I would have made sense of this when I was more youthful. Bargain is required in any cozy relationship since we are all extraordinary and have diverse needs. Trade off is something worth being thankful for more often than not if the bargaining is equivalent on both sides. When you surrender your needs and needs the lion's share of the time in any one relationship, it's an ideal opportunity to re-assess that relationship and choose in the event that it truly is sound for you to be a piece of it.
#8 Be Worryless
I struggled with anxiety and lots of worry in my past. Worrying triggered my anxiety and it became an ugly part of who I was for a long while. Once you realise that worrying will not change your outcome, you begin to accept whatever is going to happen to you. You realise you will be okay no matter what. Once I stopped worrying so much about everything, my stress levels decreased immensely.
#9 Stop Comparing
Sometimes I feel like I should be done with Facebook altogether. Comparing your life to your best friend whom you know really well is one thing, but comparing your life to someone’s life on Facebook is detrimental. Once you realize that comparing your life to others does nothing but bring your own self worth down, you eventually stop. There will always be someone who is smarter, prettier or better off than me and I have accepted that. The moment I start comparing, I immediately change my thought pattern to what I am thankful for in my life and keep moving forward.
#10 Forget expectation
I had the Disney disorder growing up, you know the one that you will meet Prince Charming, get hitched and live joyfully a great many? Well Disney can suck it since that is not genuine living. After I was on coming up short marriage number 2, I just tossed the greater part of my desires I put upon others in the refuse. When you understand you can in any case have dreams about your life however with dropping the assumptions in regards to other individuals, you truly begin to carry on with your life at the time. A desire set on another person is in reality only a planned disdain.
#11 Live to work not work to live
In the event that I could do everything over once more, I would have attempted a bunch of various employments when I was more youthful or explored many vocations and picked one that fit me best. Once you choose a profession way that you could truly observe yourself accomplishing for whatever is left of your life, you at that point move toward becoming somebody in the workforce that really lives to work since they adore their profession of decision. Many individuals are stuck in employments they loathe just to collect a paycheck and that is not a perfect presence.
#12 Manage Expectation
This ought to be an easy decision yet I didn't do this when I was more youthful. I am currently watching my folks experience their retirement and it makes them consider every one of the things I have to do as such that I am monetarily secure when I am more established. Life will continually be changing and likely keep on throwing you surprising curveballs so putting something aside for upcoming hardships is a savvy and cool headed choice.
#13 Give back more
I discovered later in my life that I appreciate helping other people. For some this could involve volunteering time with a philanthropy, or taking unique care of a dear companion that is experiencing a hard time. Giving a piece of your opportunity to accomplish something that advantages you by no means whatsoever, keeps you grounded and appreciative for what you do have. It is so remunerating to overlook about your issues in life by setting aside opportunity to put resources into another person. When you accomplish something simply out of the decency of your heart and expect nothing at all consequently, you shockingly feel better about existence regardless of what is happening.
#14 Forgive yourself & other
I lived a good part of my life bitter and angry about a few events that happened to me and for a while I truly believed it was 100% the other person’s fault. Once I realised that holding unforgiveness towards others and myself for past mistakes was holding me back from happiness, I made a change. It took me a while to be willing to forgive but I was able to work through it and experience freedom. Once you are able to truly let go of past hurts made by yourself or others, you see life and love in a positive light.
#15 Live with meaningful people
Sometimes it is hard to get away from negative people if they are your co-workers or your family. In some situations you do not have a choice but with actual friendships you can choose what type of friends you want to spend most of your time with. If you are on the end of a relationship where that person is a taker vs. a giver it’s time to set boundaries or slowly end the relationship. Once you begin to learn proper boundaries to set with people you would rather not have to deal with everyday, life becomes easier because you choose not to let that negative person affect you any longer.
#16 No is a complete sentences
I have a hard time saying no. I want to say yes all the time and make everyone happy but that is impossible. If I do say no, many times I want to justify my no or explain the situation so the other person will feel better about my no. The older I get the more I realise that no really is a complete sentence and I do not have to justify every reason why I am not able to commit to an event or able do something for someone else. Once you are confident in your ‘no’, it’s easier to make decisions for yourself instead of others.
#17 Think before you say I DO
I have a hard time saying no. I want to say yes all the time and make everyone happy but that is impossible. If I do say no, many times I want to justify my no or explain the situation so the other person will feel better about my no. The older I get the more I realise that no really is a complete sentence and I do not have to justify every reason why I am not able to commit to an event or able do something for someone else. Once you are confident in your ‘no’, it’s easier to make decisions for yourself instead of others.
#18 Stop & Admire the little things
This is so simplistic but we currently live in a world where everyone is connected to an electronic device or the internet and it is becoming harder and harder to unplug and just enjoy everything that makes life worth living. Stop to enjoy a sunrise or sunset every once in a while, sit under the stars on a night with few clouds. Stop and smell the flowers. Go visit the ocean or the mountains and admire nature. We live in a world where Ferris Bueller is so right – “Life moves pretty fast, if you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.”
#19 Stop caring what others think you do
I so wish I would have figured this one out much sooner. I was so concerned with what others thought of me that I often times responded or did things for others because I thought that is what they wanted to hear or what they wanted me to do. Once I realised that what others think of me is really none of my business I was able to live life with right motives instead of wrong ones. Once you are able to be yourself and forget caring what other people think about you, life gets better because the worry and the expectation of pleasing others is removed. The truth is it is impossible to please everyone, so you need to focus on yourself and just wear the bikini anyway.
#20 Embrace change
When I was younger I wanted things to be predictable, to be stable and for the most part to stay the same. It felt safer to think that my life will be pretty much the same through the years. When I was then confronted with numerous changes all at one time, I did not handle it well. I have since realised that the only thing I can count on in life is change. Once you are able to embrace change and know that life can take a variety of different turns, you are up for the challenge and better suited to accept whatever comes your way.
